One of the blue keys along my knights quest has been to create and follow a knights code. Over the months I have perused various martial and aesthetic laws and codes to find some suitable and appropriate code that I could pinch from.
After too much study, frankly.I felt that I was going about this the wrong way.Over the last couple of years I have strived (and I believe have been successful) in walking my talk, as far as that “talk” is in my book, Active Enlightenment. I was musing on this abstraction when I realised what I had to do.
I had to distill the teachings from that book into a code that would be both reflective of my “talk” and of a code suitable for a Knight Errant.
Below then is the code that I have created and am currently living by (I will use the “him” in this because it only applies to me) …
1. There is no code. A Knight chooses to bind himself to a code. A code that he has created and can change as time passes. Since the Knight isn’t the same from year to year it may be that the code may change too. Changing the code isn’t temporally effective though. One cannot change the code to negate some past act. See item 2. The code only applies to the Knight who created it, it cannot be used to judge any other Knights behaviour or conduct. It is simply there to provide an immediate behavioural response. Within the code one knows how to behave rather than pondering situations to see which road to take.
2. A Knights word is law to himself. A Knight must be frugal with his word as when given it is law for him. Although (1) allows the Knight to change the code. This cannot be retrospective. i.e. A knight might change rule (2) such that his word isn’t law anymore. This is fine, but he cannot undo any promises that he had given whilst it was. A specific version of a Knights Word his the Sacred Trust.
3. Say “Yes” to Adventure. A knight understands the secret of adventure. That secret is that it isn’t that we hold out our hand and hope that the universe shakes it. It is that the universe has its hand out all the time and it is us that needs to stick our hand out to shake it.
What does this practically mean? Simply, say YES to adventure. When we see the universe holding out its hand then the Knights Code demands (given other code considerations) that he take it.
Example: In 2010 I was in desperate need of cash. Fortunately having a skill set in web development I was in a good position to meet this need. Still the market isn’t as bouyant as it was. After several applications I was invited for an interview at an IT training company. I accepted, but with a personal reservation. It was a full time position and as a rule I only work on a contract basis.
Still, the job sounded good and money was reasonable so I attended the interview. If I do say so myself I blew them away! Even as I was travelling home, they called to offer me a second interview the next day. I agreed and was interviewed again and, again I blew them away! I had been interviewed by six of the staff at their Manchester based office (which had around 10 people working there).
Two days later they called me up and said that the company MD was visiting and would like to meet me too. Okay, I was game for the “3rd time is a charm” and toodled off to meet the MD. It went well (what? Not blown away?) and they offered me the job.
So, let’s get this straight, I had been interviewed by six of the ten staff and the MD. All good, right? I have to say that throughout this time I was getting jittery, my essential complaint was that I don’t like to be tied down for too long and the words “permanent” give me the heebejeebies!
Anywho, I turned up for my first day of work the following Monday and was being shown around the office when my manager called me in to his office. He cleared his throat and said that he just wanted to go over some policy issues, in particular dress code.
- “We have a dress-code policy here.”
- “We like our employees to wear trousers”
- I was wearing smart jeans
- “We like our staff to wear a tie”
- I wasn’t wearing one.
- “We don’t really go with waistcoats”
- I was wearing one.
- Ok, I said, how flexible are we with these?
- “We’re not really”
Hhmmm (compromise, I thought to myself), what if I give up the waistcoat and the jeans but I am not really a tie person, in fact I don’t even have one.
- “Well, i’m sure one of the guys in the office has a spare one.”
I looked at him to see if he was joking, he wasn’t. I walked out of the office rather bemused and wondered about life, liberty and the pursuit of non-conformity. These thoughts plagued my mind for about 3 hours before I went to see my manager.
I called him into his office with the same invitation that he had used (but alas the irony was lost on him).
“I just called you in because I have been thinking about the dress-code issues that you mentioned earlier.” I began, “If you recall, my attire at my first interview was exactly the same as I am wearing today.” I paused, but there was no response, so I continued, “and as you no doubt understand, one comes to an interview in the attire that represents the person that you are going to get, first impressions and all that.” Again I paused, and this time my manager said, “Ok, I see.”
“Good,” I continued, “then on the second interview, again I turned up in equivalent attire,” He could see where I was going with this now. I smiled, “So at that point I had been seen by six of your staff here and no one had mentioned clothing codes.”
I was ready for the final nail in the coffin, “and then,” I emphasised the word “then”. “and then, I was invited to chat with the MD of your company and, again, I wore the equivalent attire to today and, again, nothing was mentioned about code.”
I stopped, and awaited a response, nothing was forth coming. So I concluded, my monologue. “I’m afraid that I wont be able to fulfill your dress code in anyway, if you wish to (continue) to employee me you will have to do so under our un-said, but plainly obvious, code of dress.” The look on his face was truly a picture opportunity moment. “I’ll be leaving the office now to let you consider your options, should you wish to employee my services further, please give me a call”
And to his stunned silence, I left. Over the next few days they attempted to compromise, but I had realised that that wasn’t the place for me and there was no turning back.
Two weeks later I had a contract of work, which has auspicious signs surrounding it, paying more than that job had offered and has led to this remarkable quest you see me on. This tale represents significantly two of the codes of a knight.
- Behave from a place of what is inside of you rather than what has been done to you
- Say YES to adventure
4. Sacred Trinity. A knight must respect his trinity of mind, body and energy. Abuse of these with harmful acts (self-harm) is to be eradicated. This is a tough one to follow, because many harmful products are also addictive and to release these from ones life is a remarkable and amazingly empowering activity. Releasing harmful stuff from our being is only half of the equation. The complementary part to this is encouraging activities that actively grow our trinity. Examples are energy work, fitness training, healthy food intake. This blog has several examples of how this quest has moved me to fulfill these.
5. A Sacred Trust. A sacred trust is simply this. To give to one person your trust completely and utterly. In that if this person were in need and called for your aid, then no matter what your own circumstances you would go to their help. All current projects would be dropped. No reason should be asked for or required. The question of “Why?” doesn’t enter into it and is irrelevant. It is enough, indeed more than enough reason that the other has asked.
Source: For a knight, nothing is small. He has to be bigger than life. This doesn’t mean that he has to face dangers, but rather for a Knight it is more about personal growth in the face of any kinds of odds, even if they be social. Thus the Sacred Trust is one that would pit him/her at odds with the rational sane world. Questions like:
- Why are you doing that?
- Why that person?
- How far would you go?
- Well, we will see when the time comes.
Are all faced with the same answer. I am a Knight. So as part of a Knight’s Code he must have at least one such Sacred Trust. To utterly be there for another person regardless of any (and I mean any other considerations) Think about? This is big, huge. To truly unconditionally place yourself in someones hands. I know what the concept and practical implications are, but in order to elaborate a description I asked Gwas and he came up with the following questions:
- Who it applies to, who can be given the trust?
- How they accept this?
- How long it lasts?
- What are the fulfilment criteria?
1) Let me address these questions: The trust can be given to anyone the Knight chooses. It is only his concern to know with some inner knowing that this is a person to whom it should be given. A note might be that it cannot be given to a partner (as it is/should already be implicitly applied in such relationships.)
2) It is not the concern of a Knight as to whether it is accepted or not. Once the knight gives his Trust, it is given. Whether the other calls on it in one day, a year or a life time later. Whether they don’t accept it but then after years do ask of the knight. That is the whole point.
3) The trust is indefinate, that is the power of it. It cannot be negated, nor can the knight be released or release himself from it. It stands the test of time, unyielding and unconditional.
4) There are no fulfilment requirements since it is an everlasting commitment. Thus the knights judgement is truly tested, because if the person to whom they give their trust proves untrustworthy then the knight still must hold to it.
6. Creator: A knight behaves in accordance to what is inside of him, not with what has been done to him. This is an ultra difficult code to follow because it “seems” to go against our basic natural makeup of stimulus-response. There are pre-requisites to this code of conduct.
a) An understanding of who you are. Obviously you have to know who you are so you can behave from that place. A confusion I feel is often made here with the assumption that “who I am” is something that has to be found or discovered. The possibilty that such can be created instead is often not even entertained. A knight understands that a basic ingredient of life is that we are creators and so it is quite feasible for us to consciously create the answer to the question of “who am I”.
b) The counterpart to this is the ability to move into the present moment. From this position it becomes feasible to bypass our natural S-R mode of behaving for a more empowering mode.
7. Trust/Faith: A knight must come to a place of complete trust in himself. This trust aligns with the word faith too, in that contrary to rational and experiential evidence (hence the use of Faith) a knight shows and continues to demonstrate trust in the path that he is walking. This trust (if strong enough) actually creates the path before him.
Again this characteristic is evidenced in my Knights Quest as described herein. Trusting in the knowledge that is gained on the quest from esotoric (I include the higher-self in that band) sources is a vital key to having a meaningful, purposeful and fulfilled quest experience.
Kal Malik Knight Errant