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July 10, 2011
Knights Code

One of the blue keys along my knights quest has been to create and follow a knights code. Over the months I have perused various martial and aesthetic laws and codes to find some suitable and appropriate code that I could pinch from.

After too much study, frankly.I felt that I was going about this the wrong way.Over the last couple of years I have strived (and I believe have been successful) in walking my talk, as far as that “talk” is in my book, Active Enlightenment. I was musing on this abstraction when I realised what I had to do.

I had to distill the teachings from that book into a code that would be both reflective of my “talk” and of a code suitable for a Knight Errant.

Below then is the code that I have created and am currently living by (I will use the “him” in this because it only applies to me) …

1. There is no code. A Knight chooses to bind himself to a code. A code that he has created and can change as time passes. Since the Knight isn’t the same from year to year it may be that the code may change too. Changing the code isn’t temporally effective though. One cannot change the code to negate some past act. See item 2. The code only applies to the Knight who created it, it cannot be used to judge any other Knights behaviour or conduct. It is simply there to provide an immediate behavioural response. Within the code one knows how to behave rather than pondering situations to see which road to take.

2. A Knights word is law to himself. A Knight must be frugal with his word as when given it is law for him. Although (1) allows the Knight to change the code. This cannot be retrospective. i.e. A knight might change rule (2) such that his word isn’t law anymore. This is fine, but he cannot undo any promises that he had given whilst it was. A specific version of a Knights Word his the Sacred Trust.

3. Say “Yes” to Adventure. A knight understands the secret of adventure. That secret is that it isn’t that we hold out our hand and hope that the universe shakes it. It is that the universe has its hand out all the time and it is us that needs to stick our hand out to shake it.

What does this practically mean? Simply, say YES to adventure. When we see the universe holding out its hand then the Knights Code demands (given other code considerations) that he take it.

Example: In 2010 I was in desperate need of cash. Fortunately having a skill set in web development I was in a good position to meet this need. Still the market isn’t as bouyant as it was. After several applications I was invited for an interview at an IT training company. I accepted, but with a personal reservation. It was a full time position and as a rule I only work on a contract basis.

Still, the job sounded good and money was reasonable so I attended the interview. If I do say so myself I blew them away! Even as I was travelling home, they called to offer me a second interview the next day. I agreed and was interviewed again and, again I blew them away! I had been interviewed by six of the staff at their Manchester based office (which had around 10 people working there).

Two days later they called me up and said that the company MD was visiting and would like to meet me too. Okay, I was game for the “3rd time is a charm” and toodled off to meet the MD. It went well (what? Not blown away?) and they offered me the job.

So, let’s get this straight, I had been interviewed by six of the ten staff and the MD. All good, right? I have to say that throughout this time I was getting jittery, my essential complaint was that I don’t like to be tied down for too long and the words “permanent” give me the heebejeebies!

Anywho, I turned up for my first day of work the following Monday and was being shown around the office when my manager called me in to his office. He cleared his throat and said that he just wanted to go over some policy issues, in particular dress code.

  • “We have a dress-code policy here.”
  • Ok,
  • “We like our employees to wear trousers”
  • I was wearing smart jeans
  • “We like our staff to wear a tie”
  • I wasn’t wearing one.
  • “We don’t really go with waistcoats”
  • I was wearing one.
  • Ok, I said, how flexible are we with these?
  • “We’re not really”

Hhmmm (compromise, I thought to myself), what if I give up the waistcoat and the jeans but I am not really a tie person, in fact I don’t even have one.

  • “Well, i’m sure one of the guys in the office has a spare one.”

I looked at him to see if he was joking, he wasn’t. I walked out of the office rather bemused and wondered about life, liberty and the pursuit of non-conformity. These thoughts plagued my mind for about 3 hours before I went to see my manager.

I called him into his office with the same invitation that he had used (but alas the irony was lost on him).

“I just called you in because I have been thinking about the dress-code issues that you mentioned earlier.” I began, “If you recall, my attire at my first interview was exactly the same as I am wearing today.” I paused, but there was no response, so I continued, “and as you no doubt understand, one comes to an interview in the attire that represents the person that you are going to get, first impressions and all that.” Again I paused, and this time my manager said, “Ok, I see.”

“Good,” I continued, “then on the second interview, again I turned up in equivalent attire,” He could see where I was going with this now. I smiled, “So at that point I had been seen by six of your staff here and no one had mentioned clothing codes.”

I was ready for the final nail in the coffin, “and then,” I emphasised the word “then”. “and then, I was invited to chat with the MD of your company and, again, I wore the equivalent attire to today and, again, nothing was mentioned about code.”

I stopped, and awaited a response, nothing was forth coming. So I concluded, my monologue. “I’m afraid that I wont be able to fulfill your dress code in anyway, if you wish to (continue) to employee me you will have to do so under our un-said, but plainly obvious, code of dress.” The look on his face was truly a picture opportunity moment. “I’ll be leaving the office now to let you consider your options, should you wish to employee my services further, please give me a call”

And to his stunned silence, I left. Over the next few days they attempted to compromise, but I had realised that that wasn’t the place for me and there was no turning back.

Two weeks later I had a contract of work, which has auspicious signs surrounding it, paying more than that job had offered and has led to this remarkable quest you see me on. This tale represents significantly two of the codes of a knight.

  1. Behave from a place of what is inside of you rather than what has been done to you
  2. Say YES to adventure

4. Sacred Trinity. A knight must respect his trinity of mind, body and energy. Abuse of these with harmful acts (self-harm) is to be eradicated. This is a tough one to follow, because many harmful products are also addictive and to release these from ones life is a remarkable and amazingly empowering activity. Releasing harmful stuff from our being is only half of the equation. The complementary part to this is encouraging activities that actively grow our trinity. Examples are energy work, fitness training, healthy food intake. This blog has several examples of how this quest has moved me to fulfill these.

5. A Sacred Trust. A sacred trust is simply this. To give to one person your trust completely and utterly. In that if this person were in need and called for your aid, then no matter what your own circumstances you would go to their help. All current projects would be dropped. No reason should be asked for or required. The question of “Why?” doesn’t enter into it and is irrelevant. It is enough, indeed more than enough reason that the other has asked.

Source: For a knight, nothing is small. He has to be bigger than life. This doesn’t mean that he has to face dangers, but rather for a Knight it is more about personal growth in the face of any kinds of odds, even if they be social. Thus the Sacred Trust is one that would pit him/her at odds with the rational sane world. Questions like:

  • Why are you doing that?
  • Why that person?
  • How far would you go?
  • Well, we will see when the time comes.

Are all faced with the same answer. I am a Knight. So as part of a Knight’s Code he must have at least one such Sacred Trust. To utterly be there for another person regardless of any (and I mean any other considerations) Think about? This is big, huge. To truly unconditionally place yourself in someones hands. I know what the concept and practical implications are, but in order to elaborate a description I asked Gwas and he came up with the following questions:

  1. Who it applies to, who can be given the trust?
  2. How they accept this?
  3. How long it lasts?
  4. What are the fulfilment criteria?

1) Let me address these questions: The trust can be given to anyone the Knight chooses. It is only his concern to know with some inner knowing that this is a person to whom it should be given. A note might be that it cannot be given to a partner (as it is/should already be implicitly applied in such relationships.)

2) It is not the concern of a Knight as to whether it is accepted or not. Once the knight gives his Trust, it is given. Whether the other calls on it in one day, a year or a life time later. Whether they don’t accept it but then after years do ask of the knight. That is the whole point.

3) The trust is indefinate, that is the power of it. It cannot be negated, nor can the knight be released or release himself from it. It stands the test of time, unyielding and unconditional.

4) There are no fulfilment requirements since it is an everlasting commitment. Thus the knights judgement is truly tested, because if the person to whom they give their trust proves untrustworthy then the knight still must hold to it.

6. Creator: A knight behaves in accordance to what is inside of him, not with what has been done to him. This is an ultra difficult code to follow because it “seems” to go against our basic natural makeup of stimulus-response. There are pre-requisites to this code of conduct.

a) An understanding of who you are. Obviously you have to know who you are so you can behave from that place. A confusion I feel is often made here with the assumption that “who I am” is something that has to be found or discovered. The possibilty that such can be created instead is often not even entertained. A knight understands that a basic ingredient of life is that we are creators and so it is quite feasible for us to consciously create the answer to the question of “who am I”.

b) The counterpart to this is the ability to move into the present moment. From this position it becomes feasible to bypass our natural S-R mode of behaving for a more empowering mode.

7. Trust/Faith: A knight must come to a place of complete trust in himself. This trust aligns with the word faith too, in that contrary to rational and experiential evidence (hence the use of Faith) a knight shows and continues to demonstrate trust in the path that he is walking. This trust (if strong enough) actually creates the path before him.

Again this characteristic is evidenced in my Knights Quest as described herein. Trusting in the knowledge that is gained on the quest from esotoric (I include the higher-self in that band) sources is a vital key to having a meaningful, purposeful and fulfilled quest experience.

Kal Malik Knight Errant

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  1. Good day Whytefox,

    An interesting position you query. I, too examined this item of the code from the perspective you are coming from.

    Let me try and answer your questions by answering another one.

    Why? Why did I choose a position that is frought with personal emotional/physical/economical danger? For, as you say “we are all human with strengths and weaknesses”. Why then would a knight place himself on a path that might lead to disappointment? Because as “I” say, the trust is unalterable.

    The answer to this forms three threads.

    The first is that such an undertaking is truly a worthy code for a knight, it is bigger than life, it is beyond the call of reason, it is noble, frought with danger. Quite frankly, it is absurdly monumental.

    Imagine describing to another that you have given them such a trust? In a world of recipricity (where people feel the need to pay back that which they assume they owe) How can (just the giving of) such a trust ever be equalled?

    This “sacred trust” goes against the grain of normality, it shouts out loud that we are magical in nature. It throws the gauntlet down, not to the universe, but to the mundane and everyday-ness of life. It stands tall and says “I am more than what you see before you.”

    It is a grand gesture, worthy of the universe that we inhabit.

    The second thread comes from the understanding of the word “unconditional”. This word has been abused from the get-go, I have found.

    Uncondtional means just that, without condition, without judgement. This is true power and in this instance, it expresses the knights power, in that, No matter what. Truly and utterly, no matter what, I will be there, I will turn up.

    It says, “I have spoken and so it is”

    The “no matter what” burns away the irrelevancies of whether the recipient breaks or abuses that trust. Because it cannot be.

    Only that which is given conditionally can be abused. Only a trust that is given conditionally can be broken. Since the abuse comes from the very condition (spoken or no) that is placed around it. If we remove those condions then how can the trust be abused?

    Let me give an example, from that rather pathetic tale of the boy who cried wolf. The boy abuses the trust of his carers by continuosly plaging them with false dangers. Until they give up their “trust” and the boy suffers the consequences.

    But the issue is this, the carers did not give unconditional trust, they gave it on the basis that the boy would not lie. It was in essence a conditional trust.

    Here then is the power of a Knight, he will continue to turn up at the boys call, every time. Whether the boy lies or not. Because that is “who” the knight is, the trust is inside of him, not in the world. That is why it cannot be broken, because to break it would mean that the knight broke himself. Which leads to…

    The third thread is thus. What is the meaning of a knights life? It is not what he did in life, but how he conducted himself in life. His life is measured, if it can be measured at all, by the “how” not the “what”

    A question that the normal guy might ask is, “Why am I wasting my time on this wolf-crying boy who continually lies?” A knight understands that there can be no wasting of time, there can only be living, thus the only relevancy is “how did I live?”

    Thus the “what” i.e. contually running after the boy, is of no consequence, what is is that he has something monumental, that only he understands, to live with (not up to) A knight doesnt live “up to” a code, he lives “with” it.

    And so, specifically to your questions:

    A)I wonder is it possible to choose any person that is completely trustworthy?

    It is more to the point to say that it is the knight that demonstrates complete trust for the trustee i.e. they will be completely and unconditionally there for the other.

    B) Would you mind explaining a little more about how a Knight might act towards someone who does prove untrustworthy, after giving them their Sacred Trust.

    Since the trust is given unconditionally, there can be no proof of untrustworthiness, for what rule/condition has the trustee broken (and thus become untrustworthy)?

    C) How can the knight have true judgement of another?

    This is a matter of the heart my friend, where else can such a trust be born? For me, it was a feeling, a profound sense of respect and the desire to be magnificent in the life of another. And it was a feeling of the moment, not one tempered by rational considerations and judgments of whether the person was suitable or not. It is a fabulous feeling to know that for one person, at least. You will drop your entire world and go to there aid. Isn’t that truly a demonstration of the “how” you live your life, rather than the “what”?

    D) How can they enter such a position towards another, for surely we are all human with strengths and weaknesses and very few are so lofty in virtue, or true in judgement.

    I don’t know whether you are refering to the knight or the trustee. From the trustees perspective, there is no issue as to their strengths/weaknesses as the trust is unconditional.

    From the knights perspectiv, yes you are right, so very few, if indeed any are so lofty in virtue. And that is the game that a knight plays with. It is chivalry, honour, respect and adventure all rolled into one. Every day we are in this magical world, let’s recognise that magic in ourselves.

    E) Could such a position (of giving trust to the those who prove untrustworthy) ever thwart that path of the Knight in your view?

    Only if the knight gives up the unconditionality of the trust they gave. For instance, one might say that, “Hmph! When I gave you this trust I didnt expect you to be calling me every minute of the day, i’ve had enough of this!”

    What defeats a knight is that very thing, the mutation of unconditional to conditional. It is the putting of a condition on something and then that condition breaking (or continually breaking) that destroys a knights spirit.

    Without the condition, there is nothing to break.

    I hope that I have answered your questions, pardon the length of the response. I too am still learning “the way” and your questions have brought me more defined clarity of my path,

    Thank you,

    Kal Malik – Holding a Sacred Trust.

    1. Thanks Kal for your detailed answer. You’ve answered my questions well.

      I particularly like the following parts:

      “It is a grand gesture, worthy of the universe that we inhabit.”


      “What defeats a knight is that very thing, the mutation of unconditional to conditional. It is the putting of a condition on something and then that condition breaking (or continually breaking) that destroys a knights spirit.”

      Yet another question comes from this, if I may ask.

      How does a knight heal/mend/re-strengthen their spirit if it has been destroyed or broken?

      With peace,

      1. Thank you again for your comments Whytefox,

        Again you pose an interesting question.

        “How does a knight heal/mend/re-strengthen their spirit if it has been destroyed or broken?”

        Before I answer, can I just say that my posts are a description of my reality and are not an attempt to persuade anyone to my view of the world or indeed a view that I would template globally. If others find them useful fine, if not, then also fine.

        In answer to your question, firstly I have to realign my words, if I may.

        I define the words “destroys a knights spirit” to mean that it distances the knight from his spirit. It is my belief (through experience) that our life consists of mind (inc emotion), body and energy. I call this the trinity of life.

        As a fourth dimension, if you will, is our spirit. To me spirit is absolute and immutable whereas the trinity is highly mutable. Thus we can have in-balances in any of the trinities aspects.

        A knights quest is to close the gap between the life he is leading and the song his spirit is singing. Thus to say that “destroys a knights spirit” means that the knights trinity moves significantly away from the song his spirit is singing.

        How do you know what your song is? You just know. (As Castaneda says, a path with a heart is recognised for its joy and its strengthining of the warrior)

        Hopefully that explanation (short as it is) is clear. (I could talk about this forever 🙂

        From ths perspective then “healing/mending/re-strenthening” the spirit can be translated as “How can I realign my trinity with my spirits song?”

        A) NATURE: Although I believe each spirits song is unique, there are some similarities that allow me to make general suggestions.
        As a Druid yourself, you are already practicing one of the best ways to align our trinity, that of being in nature. For me nature always plays its trinity in alignment with its spirits song. Thus by being consiously in nature ones trinity also begins to align with its own song. This is a powerful environmental effect that given enough time will completely align life and spirit.

        B) SELF_LOVE: Another is self-love (with the understanding that there is no such thing as “unconditional love” since “love” in and of itself is unconditional, anything else isn’t love. For instance you can’t have “jealous love” – it’s non-sensical)/

        Self-love then, is a simple practice of encouraging that feeling about onself that one has for a new love. and giving the same considerations to oneself too.

        C) FORGIVENESS: Releasing onself from the energetic (and emotional) prison of lack of forgiveness is another. Which is actually quite easy to do, if only we wern’t so boneheaded to believe that it is hard.

        D) GRATITUDE: Switching focus to gratitude and abundance.

        These all might sound a bit new-agey namby-pamby. But here is the thing…if the aim is to align our trinity with our spirit then we have to ask…what characteristics would our spirit have? We are essentially modelling or copying our spirit…that is what alignment is “to be the same as”

        E) SERVICE: This is a fascinating one and of course is a Knights daily concern. “You are that which you give” Service to me means simply this…”what actions, thoughts and energy are you giving into the world?” That is the service you are providing. Everyone is providing a service, the question becomes is your service closing the gap or opening it.

        I hope that helps in answering your questions Whytefox,

        Again, I would say that the above is a description of my beliefs. I look forward to your thoughts.

        Kal Malik – Closing the gap!

        1. Thanks again Kal,

          I don’t think I have much in the way of thoughts towards what you have written. I think what you have said, speaks well for itself.

          While I can appreciate the ideologies, philosophy, code etc. of a particular way, walking a path is the real challenge, making it a living reality.

          This is something I reflect upon currently, in this way…
          Does one’s code (or whatever term one uses) truly serve one’s needs and ultimate direction in life, does it fulfil what it seeks to fulfil, for if we are creative beings, which I also believe, we have the power to create our journey (to a degree), or at least how we journey. If one is able to truly walk their talk, live their code, then the need for it to be an authentic code is most essential. If it is authentic, and one ‘closes the gap’, truly walks it and achieves what the code provides, then in a sense, the quest becomes ongoing fulfilment, nothing more need be done other than continue.
          I could write nearly forever on such things also 🙂
          What I have written above is not really a question, just my thoughts that followed from your writing. For at least, I know now is a time I really need to apply my own way in a practical manner. Talking and writing of it has its place, but also must be kept to what is essential. Life does not wait for the living of it.

          Blessings on your questing,

  2. Hi Kal,
    Great writing.

    Regarding the questions for Sacred Trust (number 5)

    3) The trust is indefinate…

    and particularly

    4) There are no fulfilment requirements since it is an everlasting commitment. Thus the knights judgement is truly tested, because if the person to whom they give their trust proves untrustworthy then the knight still must hold to it.

    I honour the nobility of the code you write. I have a few questions about it.

    I wonder is it possible to choose any person that is completely trustworthy? Would you mind explaining a little more about how a Knight might act towards someone who does prove untrustworthy, after giving them their Sacred Trust. How can the knight have true judgement of another? how can they enter such a position towards another, for surely we are all human with strengths and weaknesses and very few are so lofty in virtue, or true in judgement. Could such a position (of giving trust to the those who prove untrustworthy) ever thwart that path of the Knight in your view?

    I applaud your efforts as a Knight, may they re-inspire many a quester of the sacred ways.


  3. Again Gwydion, I am honoured to have provided inspiration. And since this quest has progressed some since this current post, thus I am privi to what posts will be coming up soon, let me assure you that you will not be disappointed.

    I do indeed know what you mean, everything we create: thought, feeling, action, energy adds to the mix that becomes a picture of the world. 

    What I personally call the “it’s a wonderful life” experience (from the film of the same name) ie our actions impact the world in profound ways, our lack of knowledge about these results notwithstanding. 

    It is always great to bump into a fellow questor on the road! You are always welcome! 

    Kal Malik – Knight Errant

  4. With ever-growing interest I follow the development of the events in your Knight’s Quest, and I must admit I find each and every one of your posts inspiring.
    I have a firm belief, that no inspiration comes without a reason, no emotion is useless and no thought – unnecessary (a gross simplification here, but I hope you get what I mean). This post has managed to … well, blow me away.
    Looking forward to what tomorrow brings (both, on your path and mine)

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