My wife had a friend. She has worked with this friend a long time ago and they used to have happy times, but then her friend began to succumb to the stresses and strains of working in the mental health profession, and rapidly began to suffer from the very symptoms she was trying to cure. Friendship became strained. Honestly, her friend has never really recovered properly. and now, perhaps cruelly, her name is often accompanied by the prefix “Mad…” Everyone who knows her expects a whirlwind visit near to a full moon. Oh yes, despite what sceptics say, experience has taught me that this so-called myth is very true – people affected by the moon are prone to lunacy when the moon is full.
One night I heard a knock at the door. My wife was away and it was 8pm. I opened the door and Mad Lady walked straight in, chattering about seeing our cats, and 101 other topics within a ten-second burst. Definitely “hyper”! She is a buddhist and spotting an ornamental buddha perched on our fish tank she began to bow to it in little fast bows, hands clasped in prayer, and muttering incomprehensible mantras to herself and her deity. I calmly asked whether she would like a cup of tea, if she was staying? To my surprise she said yes, so I began to prepare the necessaries. All sorts of thoughts were going through my head. Mostly, “What am I going to do now?“. To be honest I had always let me wife take the brunt of her behaviour and had taken every excuse possible to slip away.
Sounds harsh, bur this lady has a lot of issues and she is a vortex of negative energies. She is a “taker”, but when well is equally a “giver”, so you just have to know when to catch her right. Sadly, she visits people most often when she’s in need, and in “take mode”. Tonight was clearly such an occasion, and this time there as no escape. this time I would have to deal with her on my own. The test was obvious to me. She was going around in circles with grief, stuck in a time loop, weighed down by the grief and guilt that accompanied the suicide of a former lover. She is spiritually and intellectually active but I know that very few of the people that she encounters are prepared to deal with her frantic and overpowering curiosity combined with such a strong neediness. People often are willing to help, but she is like a vortex of neediness that people get quickly depleted.
This time, however, the test was mine and mine alone. I prepared myself.
The Circle and The Spiral
In my home environment, with all my protection up, I offered a helping hand. I let her speak for hours, listening, giving her occasional feedback but letting her ostensibly have her say. Once she began to go around in circles I stopped her, pointing out the circular nature of the conversation. At one point she began to cry, telling me how she felt trapped in the circular nature of the situation. This was my opportunity to help. I told her about the circle and the spiral. How we often travel in circles re-visiting the same places, people and episodes from our lives with no way out of the path that we are on. We become stale and trapped. Locked into a mode of being and behaving.
There is a way out, though. But she wasn’t ready to hear that just yet.
The Nature of Suffering
I described our natural path as being like a thread slinking its way through the tapestry of the Universe – I was trying to describe the Flow of the Universe. As a buddhist she is heavily into the concepts that this religion offers, and so I adapted my concepts to fit her knowledge. She asked how she could escape her suffering, because the Buddha had said that suffering was a part of life. I explained to her my concept of suffering – that suffering is the friction we feel when we do not conform to the path that we are naturally meant to flow along. The friction and strain of pulling away from our natural path, of deviating from our true course, is what we experience as suffering.
The solution to this problem is to move upwards, out of the circle and into the spiral. To do this requires a two-step approach: first the release and then the accumulation of energy. Let go and gather again. We need to release our attachments to the things that are weighing us down and holding us to the level we are currently on, the things that are making us circle around. Then, we need to gather enough energy to propel ourselves into the next level of the movement and upwards into a spiral motion, to elevate ourselves to the next level of the path around that spiral form. Sometimes, simple dropping the weight of accumulated psychological or ritualistic baggage is enough to lift us upwards. Sometimes, we need to gather energy towards us, attract it, power ourselves up, in order to have the strength to lift ourselves out of the deep rut and circular groove into which we have let ourselves circle around.
How to Move From Circle to Spiral
The way to move from the circle to the spiral is to let go of attachment to the weights that hold you down. If you are following a spiritual path then you have probably been tasked with achieving something, or you imagine that it is you who “wants” to do something – perhaps a charitable act, to learn some new skill, ritual or devotion, whatever it may be. Material objects and life events can interfere with making progress in this work. Feelings of guilt, regret or some other negative emotion can drag you down. You need to free yourself.
So, the first step is to remove the attachment – to neutralise yourself, free yourself from the weights. You can do this in any number of ways, but on this blog the suggested methods are:-
- visiting a sacred site to balance your chakras
- calling upon your spirit guides to release any energetic attachment you may have acquired (attracted)
- cleansing yourself using a ritual involving water and light, and possibly crystals
Once you are neutralised and balanced then you can begin to reclaim the energy that you have dissipated, changing the charge from antithetical to beneficial. You can re-fill your energy body with positive emotions and energy in order to prepare yourself for the uplift into the next level of spiritual working on the spiral path towards self-improvement and increased usefulness to the Universe. You will be moving yourself more fully into the tidal force of the Flow of the Universe.
The energising step may involve such processes as:-
- visiting a power centre to recharge your energy body
- asking your spirit guides or energy worker to let love and light flow into your energy body (a method suggested by a friend, I don’t do this often)
- re-charging yourself using a crystal layout to gather and focus positive energies into your energy body
Of course this all sounds “New Agey”. Calling upon spirit guides and using crystal layouts to recharge. But you know me by now – I don’t say these things because I think they sound good – I say them because I KNOW they work. Even that suggested method of recharging that is a friend’s suggestion – I know it works because I’ve measured his energies before and after he did it. It has all been tested and confirmed using the only measuring tool I have that works reliably for such things – dowsing.
I have to wait until our next encounter before I will find out the results of my advice to this lady. I suspect that may be some time around the next full moon – sounds like a safe bet, huh?